Linda T. Inatsuka, Ph.D.
"We're having difficulty communicating with each other."
"We're always arguing."
"I'm having a hard time connecting with my spouse/partner."
"I'm not sure if I want to stay in this marriage/relationship."
These are some of the complaints I hear from my clients.
In couples therapy, we start by identifying and examining the expectations that each person in the relationship has about their role in the relationship, what they expect from the other person, and what each person "envisions" the relationship to be like. This is so that both individuals are "on the same page."
For some couples, it may be that they need to learn what "being in a relationship/marriage" really means in terms of their roles, the actions they need to take to nurture or support their partner/spouse & relationship, and letting go of expectations of their marriage/relationship that no longer work for them.
There are times when couples are in a cycle of engaging in behaviors or interactional styles that are not supportive, but rather, destructive to their relationship. Most times, these behaviors stem from past relationships, be it with family members or previous partners. In this case, therapy focuses on letting go of past hurts, gaining skills to better manage conflictual interactions, and learning and using effective communication skills.
If you are seeking to improve your marriage/relationship, wanting to rekindle the love you once felt for each other, or finding joy in your relationship, please contact me for a FREE phone consultation. To learn more about how I work with clients, please take a look at my About page.